~Response to the Comments~
To-anonymous ("without being insensitive to your feelings, I think you should forget about getting slapped by your dad. Lots of dads do it. I've been beaten and slapped, and I have to say, Its has made me a much better person. You might not appreciate it now but you will someday. p.s. I have never known a dad who apologized for slapping or beating their child (and meant it sincerely)!" posted on- Just keep Swimming)
That is physical abuse if your father beat you and by the law of the united states that is illegal. He could possibly lose custody over you if you are under 18 years of age. It is not really the fact of the action necessarily, but more of the promise my father made to both my mom and myself. Both my parents had promised me that they would never use physical punishment. I have had several trust issues with my parents and I had finally started to feel safe around them again. He broke his promise to me by doing that. I will say that I do not feel safe around him.
He is not what you would call the normal father. My dad has said that he likes control and if he is not in control, he does not like it and that is with anything, not just with me (example- when i was 3 years old, we had a family get together. I was talking with my grandparents and my dad called me over. So i came over and he didn't want anything, but just showing my grandparents that he has control. It was slightly appalling to the whole family as my dad did this).
I have found that my dad's side it is easy to get addicted to things, starting with my great grandpa- alcohol, uncle- drugs, other (alive) uncle- food, my dad- Ice tea, chewing gum, and control. I am not aloud to express my opinion or feeling in any way. They say that I can, but when I do I get yelled at, regardless of the manner in which I give my feeling or opinion. For that reason my house in not really the most "safe" environment for a child. Th rules way back when was to be seen and not heard, but those rules do not fit to modern times. You may find it ok that adults beat children, but I find it wrong. There are other ways as to set children straight without giving them bruises and black eyes. Take away privileges, depending on how old they are put them in time out or ground them, make them do chores around the house. It is simple enough to let them learn without making the environment that they live in harmful. (Look at the TV show "super nanny". She is highly trained and she is against beating or physical abuse towards children. She makes even the brats behave without hurting them)
I am glad though that this way of being brought up worked for you. I do hope that if you have any children though, that you do not beat them. Like I said that is illegal and you could lose your children.
Sincerely,
Shelly
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